Funnies for you on a Thursday! I LOVE this little video of Nixie - she truly LOVES salmon! I think she was around 19 months here!
Always reminding myself to not sweat the small stuff and to not take things personally and to just take each day at a time.
Its easy to look at other people's lives, relationships, families, jobs etc etc and think they have it all and they have it all together. Social media allows us to portray our lives so easily to the world and to filter out the bad so that the things people see are the funny things, the happy times and the enjoyable things we do. Truth is - that's never the whole picture. Everybody has struggles and negative things in their lives and no grass is always greener. Keep watering your own lawn to make it your green grass :)
I have a great life, an amazing husband, a beautiful little girl and another bub on the way. Life is good and I am happy. But - my husband and I still argue, my little girl is sometimes quite naughty, and I have days where I feel overwhelmed and depressed at things.
I have my struggles and I will not hide that to try and portray a perfect little life because in all honesty that does not help anyone. I've had some really difficult things happen in my life so far and I am open and honest to people about what I have been through. My honesty has allowed me to reach some people and talk so deeply with some people about life etc that most likely would have been passed by - and both parties benefit from the sharing and caring!
*sigh* this morning I had a little cry to a bunch of new girlfriends at biblestudy in the church we have joined over here in Erina NSW.
Some days I feel like a terrible mother/person and just sharing with others allows you to see how normal we all are!!!!!
Nixie bit me this morning...
She did not want her nappy changed...
She nearly always runs away to hide when she needs to do a #2 and then runs around saying 'poopoo' when its done but not wanting her nappy actually changed.
I picked her up to change her and she sunk her little teeth into my neck like a vampire...
Thankfully it was not hard, but it was enough to make me angry that she did it and she got a swift smack on the behind for it. I immediately felt bad for smacking her. There is so much conflict going around about discipline for your children and what is the right way and should you smack your children or should you not. I am still trying to filter all the information that I have been reading and listening to so that I can determine what is right for us and right for Nixie. All children are different and need to be disciplined according to their character and personality. What I mean by that is that some children are very tender hearted and only require a stern look to be corrected, where as some children are a little more resilient and need to be given a more encouraging disciplinary action... Nixie, I believe, is unfortunately somewhat like her mother - me... I can be quite stubborn and strong willed and I see that in Nixie. I believe if a child is old enough to disobey then they are old enough for loving discipline involving a smack. I know this is going to open up a can of works for some people! There is too much to go in to to explain all I believe on this subject however if you are interested on some great literature then on this subject then I recommend the book I mentioned early in this blog "She's Gonna Blow" by Julie Ann Barnhill and also "Don't Make Me Count to Three" by Ginger Hubbard.
Some important tips I have taken from these books:
- Always correct/discipline your child using a comfortable and conversational manner.
- Never discipline your child when in an angry state - take time out if necessary.
- Remember that it would be unnatural for your child not to sin because, after all, they (and we) are all sinners.
- Always tell your child what they have done wrong and what they can do to make it right.
- Always hug and love your child and tell them you love them after disciplining them.
- Never with hold affection and love.
- "Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up" Galations 6:9. In reference to disciplining your child - keep it up - be consistent, persistent, effective and righteous in the way you do it and "When your child is old they will not depart from it" Proverbs 22:6
Another good little tip I like to think on : Am I angry (at my child's behaviour) because my will was violated (sinful anger) or because God's will was violated (righteous anger)?
Anywaaaaaaaaaaaaaays...
Nixie is awesome and we hugged and kissed straight away after the bite, subsequent smack and explanation of why she was smacked! :)
Leaving you with another Nixie funny -
When saying goodnight to Nixie lately, she has been gently cradling our faces in her hands and kissing us tenderly - 3 kisses - and she wants to give all 3 kisses. If she doesn't get to plant one of them she wriggles and squirms till we get all three - one on the lips and one either side on the cheek - it is the cutest, loveliest little gesture and makes my heart melt every time!
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